Discover
How To Make Love For As Long As You Choose And How
To Master Ejaculation Control.
Sexually,
men face two major difficulties throughout their lives.
The first is, as a young, virile teenager, being able
to last long enough to satisfy a woman, or even satisfy
yourself. After weeks of anticipation, it is often
all over in a few minutes. Do you remember those times?
Or are you still in the position of sometimes not
lasting as long as you would like? What an embarrassment
it is for a man of any age to ejaculate too soon.
Not a happy memory.
Not
a happy memory for a married man either, especially if
your wife does not want to make love as much as you do.
When she does, you ejaculate too soon and she is left
feeling frustrated and sometimes angry. Even though she
might not say so or show it, she feels it. Not good times
for a man of any age. I would rate ejaculating before
the woman wants to, high on any man's private list of
embarrassing times.
Be
honest about this. If it is a problem sometimes and you
want to do something about it, the first step is to acknowledge
it to yourself. Remember, you are not the only man who
faces this difficulty.
The
second major difficulty is: at some stage in your later
years, you will no longer come too soon, but you won't
come at all. You won't be able to get an erection or if
you do, it certainly won't stand up as straight and hard
as it used to. Very often your woman's sexual energy has
increased because most women reach their sexual prime
when they are over forty. There is the opportunity for
lovemaking, but you can't do anything about it because
your sexual energy is not as strong. If you do get an
erection and ejaculate, instead of the mind blowing explosion
it used to be, it barely trickles out. It's more like
a squeak than a roar. If you haven't experienced this
yet, I guarantee that at some stage it will happen.
However
there is something you can do about it, as it is not necessarily
a part of ageing. These major difficulties can be overcome
through learning the essential techniques of ejaculation
control.
First
Secret: The Pubic Coccyx
(PC) Muscle The
first and most important thing to learn is how to strengthen
your pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle) or love muscle.
This muscle is the major muscle of contraction in male
and female orgasm. Strengthening the PC muscle helps to
strengthen your erection and increase the sensations of
your climax, which is very important in older years.
The
PC muscle extends from the base of the spine, where it
is connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where
it is connected to the pubic bone. Just as you can tense
and release your fist or tense and release your shoulders,
you can tense and release the PC muscle. This will exercise
the muscle that can increase your and your partners pleasure.
Anyone
can tense their fist. Try it now to give you the idea.
Tense your fist and feel your biceps muscle tighten, then
release – totally. Now see if you can tense and
release the biceps muscle alone. Muscle isolation practice
will help you to isolate the PC muscle.
It
is the PC muscle you use to cut off urination. The next
time you urinate, try to stop the flow in midstream to
get a feeling of activating the PC muscle only. At first
you may need to tighten the whole pelvic floor which includes
the anus muscle and perhaps the lower abdominal muscles.
Some
men may need to tense the whole upper body to pull up
the PC muscle. See if you can locate the PC muscle. Flex
it, even if your whole body tightens. Just as you isolated
the muscle in the biceps from the fist, you can totally
relax your upper body and still tense the pelvic floor.
Try
it now as you are reading this. Your pelvic floor is tight,
but the rest of your body is relaxed. As you practise
this regularly and your PC muscle gets stronger, you will
be able to distinguish it from the nearby muscles. In
the earlier stages, do not concern yourself with this,
just tighten and release all the muscles in this pelvic
floor area, including the anus and buttocks. Continue
to tighten and release several times.
Later
in your own private space, while you are standing in front
of a mirror, continually draw up and release this PC muscle
as if you are holding back urination. You will notice
that you can make the penis move up and down as you tighten
and release this muscle. If you can do this, then you
know you are exercising the right muscle.
Now
that you have located the muscle you can start to strengthen
it. Incorporate these simple exercises into your daily
routine, associating them with a particular activity and
independent of your lovemaking sessions. Then the exercises
will become habitual and you won't have to set aside a
special time to practise. For example, you can practise
while you drive or travel to and from work and no one
will know you are doing it. Strengthening
the PC muscle is one of the greatest lovemaking secrets
a man can know.
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